Why do we love hearing, "I love you" so much? Maybe its the promise of holding a place in someone`s heart, or the awakening knowledge of a new significance you hold in someone`s life. Often it`s the phrase expressed before a relationship takes it`s next step, the expression that one is loved for all their silly quirks, for their looks, for their heart, or for who they are (the good, the bad, and the imperfection). People thrive off that idea, that they are enough, that they are someone`s everything.
We love to be loved.
I believe in love. I believe in its strength and significance in relationships. But I have also learned that love isn`t always enough. You need more than love to make a relationship work. Love starts many great romances, but love alone won`t make a relationship last forever.
I have a few things to say to my future girlfriend. I hope you understand what feeling is behind the words. And what kind of person I am. What are my feelings and desires:
I forgive you
I forgive you for all the things have done, or will do, that may hurt me. I forgive the way you may lash out when you are hungry, I forgive the things you may say when you`re tired after a long day. I forgive the times you didn`t even know you upset me. I forgive your big mistakes and the small ones. I forgive you for not knowing what I needed when I thought you would, or even expected you to know. I forgive you when you fall short, because I see how hard you are trying. I forgive you the way I hope you`ll forgive me because I know neither of us our perfect.
I respect you
I respect you for who you are, and not for what I feel you deserve. I respect you because you deserve my respect, not because you earned it. I`ll respect your opinions and consider your feelings. I`ll treat you like a person with your own thoughts, hopes, dreams and desires. And those thoughts, hopes, dreams, and desires will matter to me the way they matter to you.
I`ll support you
I`ll support your hopes and your dreams. I will always have your back. You can rely on me. I`ll raise you up and never tear you down. I`ll always make sure you have what you need, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. I`ll lift you back up when you fall.
I`ll protect you.
I`ll protect you from harm. I`ll protect your heart from pain. I`ll protect the idea of us. I won`t demean you. I`ll treasure you and shield you from evil, bad and ugly. I won`t let others put you down. You will be safe in my arms, safe in my hands and safe in my heart. I`ll be your safe haven, your safety net, and someone you can always trust.
I`m committed to you
I won`t leave you. I will be here for you again and again. I`ll make this work a priority in my life. I`ll look back on our beginning, I`ll work on our now and I`ll look forward to our future because we are something that I want to last forever.
Girls, say hi ;)